I’ve just gotten over a very intense virtual relationship. Mostly I don’t engage in exclusive relationships but this one sort of blind sided me. I met this guy in the virtual play station world and we hit it off very well. He would be around whenever I logged on and it was nice to have a break from the horny little boys I usually had to deal with on play station home. One question I always got asked was, “do you have a boy friend?” And when I said no, then I would get hit on by the guy I was dancing with. So one day when I got asked that question, I said yes, partly to stop getting hit on and partly because I knew this guy I liked wanted this kind of relationship.
There was however another girl in the picture who showed up a lot but kept on saying she wasn’t this guys’ girl friend. In fact, at the start, this girl and I became very close until one day she joined a group and didn’t seem to have time for my new bf and me. Which was fine with me and him. But then she came back into our lives and got pissed at me and put pressure on my bf to lie to me. As far as I was concerned that was the last straw and I confronted her about it and told her if I never see her again, to have a good life. Unfortunately my bf confronted her too but came away with the idea that she was sorry for dorking with our relationship and she wouldn’t do it again. But from what my bf told me about her, this wasn’t the first time she put the screws to him and I was sure it wasn’t going to be the last time either. Then he said I should let go of my hatred of her and I told him that I didn’t hate her but was very sure I didn’t want her in my life and it seemed in order to do that we could no longer be bf and gf. So we wouldn’t have an exclusive relationship but would still relate as friends if he wanted.
But by this time she had taken over his mind and he stopped seeing me for awhile. I know to a certain extent I was the one taking over his mind and leading him out of the depressed state I found him in. And we were truly happy with each other. But I just couldn’t be intimate with a person, who for whatever reason, turns their mind over to somebody who gets off on manipulating people. So the other day a guy friend of mine showed up who had made friends with my ex bf and this girl who had taken over his mind. He said he had a fight with this girl and agreed with me that she is insane and wanted me to take back my ex bf because he was so sad. I wouldn’t do it because now I could see that my ex bf had turned his mind over to this guy friend and if I got intimate again with my ex, this guy would control both of us. And so it goes in the virtual world as well as the real world, freedom at any cost.